The Bible says, “…out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.” (Luke 6:45, NIV)
If we want to know what’s in our hearts, listen to what comes out of our mouths. When we don’t like what we hear, we need to confess to the Lord and ask for His help in changing the attitude of our heart.
We need to beware of being critical of our spouses, especially in front of others. It’s very uncomfortable for everyone present, and it’s humiliating for the one being criticized. If we have a complaint about someone, the Bible instructs us to speak to them privately and respectfully.
We should also be careful of what we say about people of the opposite sex, and how we say it. There’s nothing wrong with noticing that a person is attractive, but if we verbalize that more than once about the same person, or make a sexual comment, there is the danger that we may be causing our spouse to feel insecure or disrespected.
In both cases, the solution is the same: “…we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” (2 Corinthians 10:5, NIV) Other people should be hearing our praises of our spouse, like they did when we first fell in love.
It is good to reflect upon the courting days, when we esteemed each other so highly and couldn’t wait to tell others how wonderful and attractive our loved one was. In today’s fast-paced world, its easy to get distracted by seemingly urgent matters and neglect the loving acts of kindness we showed each other then.
May the Lord continually re-kindle our first love affection and attraction for each other, so that our words will be honoring to our spouses. This honors the Lord, as well.