Sometimes, after we’ve suffered the consequences of a mistake, we may wonder why our loved ones didn’t warn us. In reality, they probably tried, but we weren’t receptive. Or we may have made it very clear that we didn’t want advice.
I know that there are two basic reasons I don’t seek advice (from God or people):
- I get so caught up in my own plans that I simply don’t even think about asking.
- I don’t want to hear what I think they’ll say.
Seeking guidance, from God or trusted people, requires humility and surrender. I must humbly recognize that I might be wrong, and I must be willing to surrender my desires, before I’ll be open to a differing opinion.
A good place to start is by asking God to help me surrender my desires and be open to hearing what He has to say, either directly, or possibly through other people. I also need to ask Him to help me understand that I could be the one who’s wrong. Once my heart is receptive, then I’m ready to seek the opinion of God and the people that I trust.
Each of us must take the responsibility of asking for guidance. If the person we’re asking feels we’re genuinely interested in what they have to say, they will most likely be honest with us. And we can always trust God to be honest with us! So, the responsibility for seeking guidance rests with us as individuals. If we genuinely seek it, we’ll find it.