I have found that when I’m feeling tempted to give unsolicited advice, ask questions that are none of my business, or offer accountability to someone who hasn’t asked for it, I’m usually lacking faith. I want to be helpful, but I probably won’t be, and I even run the risk of offending them. At such times, I need to ask myself: do I truly believe in the power of prayer? Do I trust God to guide the person I’m praying for? Do I trust that the Lord can even bring good out of their mistakes, just as He does for me?
When in doubt about whether or not to speak, silence is best. If, however, after an extended period of time and prayer, I feel impressed to voice my concerns, then I should ask the Lord to guide me in how, and when, I should do so, and wait for clear direction. Whether I remain silent or speak up, I need to make sure I’m doing God’s will, not mine.